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IF YOU ARE NOT LIVING IT, ASSUME YOU KNOW NOTHING ABOUT IT.
The way to fully comprehend, is to practice living it.
Take a minute and think about it - Did I stir up a reaction? Do you believe otherwise?
Understanding something is purely mind based whereas living something is heart based. How can we ever truly understand something if we are not connected to it?
How many times in your life have you gone through the motions and say to yourself - I know this, but I keep making the same mistakes. For example, we meet a someone of a romantic interest and immediately allow ourselves to fall for them even though we had the initial thought that they weren’t right for us. We move forward with it anyways, because we think, well I’m not exactly tied up right now and I can afford some fun in my life.
If you TRULY understood the situation, you wouldn’t do that again, because you’re choosing to accept the signs and trust there is someone better out there for you. Even dipping into the energy of ego, and allowing it to be around you is making the same mistake again.
Here’s another example, maybe you hate your job or your boss. You’ve told yourself countless times to be grateful you have a steady paycheque and a decent job and as a result you continuously show up in a terrible mood at work. Do you believe that in that moment you’re truly practicing gratitude for what you have in your life?
TO UNDERSTAND IS TO USE OUR MINDS, AND TO TRULY LIVE IS TO USE OUR HEARTS. TO TRULY KNOW SOMETHING IS TO FEEL AN EMOTIONAL CONNECTION.
Let me highlight my statement with an example.
I believe there is a level of understanding that needs to take place before you can fully live it. You have to depend your mind to try and comprehend a theory. Let’s say it’s the theory that you feel that if you were truly grateful for your work you could show up in a positive mood. It’s ok to admit that you feel disconnected from the work you’re doing (because it no longer serves you), but to show up grumpy and unconscious is not aligned with the truth you seek.
So the comprehension that needs to occur, is that you can SEE that there’s something missing, such as gratitude, and you would like to bring more of it to feel more joy, even though you don’t like your job. Change can happen quickly if we allow it. If quitting your job right away might not feel good for you, you begin to PRACTICE choosing to see the GRATITUDE in your daily routine. Perhaps that’s feeling gratitude for a consistent paycheque or the community of colleagues surrounding you at your office and so on…. There are many ways of simply flipping our perspective that can start to have an immediate effect, because you’re choosing to LIVE it.
Choosing to live it, doesn’t bring an instant fix to your problems because we’re rewiring the brain to look at our situations differently. We’re starting to look at the abundance over the lack there of.
It may feel uncomfortable at first, because this new way of being is totally foreign to our ego. We’re actively connecting to a higher frequency and way of being, which brings in faster results the more we practice it.
TO LIVE IS TO KNOW, AND WE NEED TO GET OUR BRAINS/EGO OUT OF THE WAY TO LIVE AND LEAD WITH OUR HEART.
If you’re not experiencing joy, peace, love and gratitude presume you are understanding nothing. For when we break it down and at the core of everything we’re simply looking to experience love and joy in our lives.
Our ego comes up with many ways to disrupt this process. We develop sub-personalities that keep us from our truth. These sub-personalities are based in fear, fear of abandonment, fear of love, fear of unworthiness, fear of success - I have many more I can list here but I think you get the point.
As a result we apply meaning to everything in our lives to help UNDERSTAND the situation we’re in - it’s a protective mechanism to prevent ourselves from feeling…because somewhere along the way we learned we weren’t safe to feel. This dates back to our caveman era, it’s our conditioning.
Here’s another common example. Let’s say you have recently cut a friend out of your life because you feel as though they have taken advantage of your giving nature, and you haven’t received anything in return.
The first thing is to realize these are all fabricated stories thanks to our ego. Maybe the situations you have experienced are true to you, however you’re completely passing the blame to the other person. You’re labelling them as a bad person, insecure or that they “have a lot of issues”.
Realize what YOU could’ve done differently. In this particular scenario, you could’ve stated your boundaries earlier on, and said something when you feel like you have spent more time on their woes than yours. Maybe it’s hard for you to speak up, so the other person assumes you don’t have anything to share.
Do you see how you feel like you’ve been TRICKED? When really, you’ve been tricking yourself form seeing your own truth this entire time. This friendship has been a blessing, for it has only highlighted your fears back to you, so you can truly move on and become closer to love, and living your truth.
The same truth can be applied to our thoughts.
For many years of my life, I felt I could not control the thoughts in my head and I was so mean to myself. I still have this tendency and my true colours shine whenever a situation doesn’t go my way. My coping mechanism has been to blame myself instead of connecting with the divine and realizing that all cancellations, delays, or misses are always a blessing.
I can go fast and furiously down the path of self destruction because it’s familiar and my old way of being.
Part of this practice is compartmentalizing your emotions, because quite frankly we have the ability to be reactive in situations. There’s a learning, and understanding that comes to be that lends itself to fully appreciating and understanding why your emotions are flaring up and it’s usually to see how our ego steps in and lack there of.
THIS COMES WITH TIME, AND THE DEVOTION TO YOUR WELL BEING TO FEEL JOY, PEACE, LOVE, AND GRATITUDE ALL THE TIME.
WHO SAYS THIS IS IMPOSSIBLE?
It gets easier, the lows start to spread out and the highs stay longer, but this work is not for the faint of heart, this work is serious, it’s like saving up to buy a plane ticket home, and when you get home you realize there’s even more work to be done - but it’s not scary or overwhelming, it’s humbling and interesting.
Consider the moments where you feel upset. You may be upset about your financial situation, your boss, your parents, your plant dying or tearing in a hole in your pants. Would you agree that there is a different level of upset to each situation that I mentioned above?
I’m about to tell you, that it’s all the same, baby.
When you’re upset, we’re never really upset for the reasons that we think. Our ego thinks it knows what is causing the upset, but our ego rarely tells us the truth.
You see, the only way to truly live this is to take note of when you’re upset, and discover the source of it. What is cause the reactions within in? If you’re willing to go to the darkest parts of you, you’ll realize that it’s all the same.
Ultimately, you can’t keep one form of upset and let the others go, it’s inauthentic because it’s universally connected and part of who we are and part of this amazing journey of self discovery.
More to come,